New  Years One Step at a Time

Year's end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on,

with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us.

Hal Borland

The loss of a loved one through death is a life–changing experience.  What was “normal” is no longer normal.  As one person said, “normal” is a setting on the dryer… that’s all.

            So, a new year has dawned, how do you face the changes that it brings? You do it one step at a time. As the Chinese Proverb says, “The man who removed mountains began by carrying away small stones.”  Sometimes looking at the “Big Picture” of life can feel too overwhelming.  Sometimes a New Year can feel overwhelming.  If that is the case for you, then just take one moment at a time…or one day at a time, whatever increment works for you. Then, adopt an attitude that is one of SURVIVOR.  Take on an attitude that “I WILL make it through this moment and this day.” 

            This New Years, please take some time to look within, and then consider a resolution to take life on one step at a time, living each moment as fully as you possibly can, not in spite of your loss, but in response to your loss. And as you do so, listen with your heart, and maybe you’ll hear your loved one nodding in encouragement.

The journey into this New Year begins with a single step. 

You can do it.

Della Ferguson